Wednesday, September 9, 2015

Reader Submission: Black Women In Toronto

Interesting note on Black Women in Toronto.

Out of all the unfortunate weirdness that occurs with Toronto's dating scene, this one has to be most common. Black women don't like dating black men but throw themselves at European looking men. I can go on a dating website and pick out the prettiest black women and expect positive responses. So for any man who isn't Black or Indian in this city, you can have many dates with pretty Black females. Now when I'm on these dating websites I try really hard to date within my race but I hardly get any success. So I get really desperate and send out some messages to the prettiest black females and within a couple of hours to a day we will be talking. I have a friend who has Eritrean looks. He isn't a bad looking guy for today's standards and is smart but a bit shy. Also he doesn't have that swag style. He tells me that he has problems looking for females of his own ethnicity here. So it seems that Black women don't like dating their own race in this city.

Now, all other decent looking females throw themselves at the best looking males who need to have mandatory blue eyes and almost blonde hair. This indicates that females in Toronto are extremely prejudiced and if you don't fit the model of perfect man you won't be given the time of day.

Reader Submission: Lessons From History

Hi guys,

Each time in history a consistent persecution was carried out against a certain social group, that was based on a story that this group was privileged and had a secret agenda that was harming society. Let's not give some trivial examples here, such as the Kulaks in Ukraine, among many other. Having grown up in a Communist country, I will give a couple of instances of how things used to work back then.

Every single propaganda machine, in my opinion, directed at achieving a certain thinly veiled political goal, works on roughly the same principles:

1. A mixture of half-truths, selective representation of facts, straight lies and wild exaggerations, designed to appeal emotionally to the population.

Example 1- the rotting capitalist world is full of poverty, inequality and there are people dying on the streets in Western Europe, while rich bankers eat lobsters in the restaurant a wall away. In our great Soviet Union we take care of everyody because it is a workers' paradise. But they hate us because they are jealous and want to take enslave us. Be afraid and get ready to defend yourself!

2. Simplification of the terms: you are either with us or against us, there is nothing in between. Try to question any of our views and you become an enemy.

Example 2- you are either a communist (the good guy) or a capitalist (the bad guy). There is nothing in between.

3. The third pillar of the propaganda machine is the repeating ad nauseam of the aforementioned half-truths, exaggerations and straight lies (which, strongly emotionally appealing, get gobbled up like hot cakes, too). At some point they sink so deep inside people's heads, especially if the people in question have grown up listening to them since day one (i.e. the glorious Y, or mine, generation, like OMG my iPhone battery just died), that even the mild suggestion of an alternative reality is immediately cast down as absurd, stupid, and its author- denounced as weird, such a favourite word of the modern woman. Dogmatism is established.

Example 3- every single day you are listening about the great achievements of the great Soviet Union, the great surpassing of the 5 year plan and how much better off you are than the rotting capitalism. Every single time you listen to the news. At least once every day, often a couple of times.

4. Fitting in- once a certain level of indoctrination in society has been achieved, perforce or voluntarily, you cannot afford to disagree anymore. For most people that comes naturally, especially for women, as many automatically accept what is required for fitting in to be good and don't really give it a second thought. I have seen this countless times.

Example 4- you work in a factory where pretty much everybody is a convinced communist. Try to criticize the invasion of Afghanistan, although in general you support the Soviet Union, and you will see how many enemies you will make. How your boss will treat you after that. And how you will fall into isolation. People will start spreading rumours about you. And in the end you will either leave or get your ass fired.

5. You always tend to see as just what benefits you. This refers to the seminal arguments "don't blame others for your own mistakes".

Example 5- I am a convinced communist and a Party member who has a special pass for better, and longer vacations in the summer, has access to better foods, better quality building materials for the renovation of my house through my better connections, etc. etc. I also work as a factory foreman. What do you think I am going to tell you if you start complaining about communism? Exaclty- see how well it worked out for me, if it didn't for you, you have only yourself to blame.

By now you are probably wondering why did I write all of this and what does it have to do with us. Well, take examples 1 to 5 and see their recreation in the propaganda machine we are exposed to today:

Example 1: Every 4th woman in Canada is reaped. Every second female university student is harrassed. They are among us!

Example 2- you are either a feminist or woman-hater, rape apologist, pig and a swine, privileged patriarchal oppressor!

Example 3: Try to express the opinion that most of the family violence in Canada is non-physical to you co-workers, and that it is committed by men and women alike.

Example 4: Every single day, at least 1 of the 6-7 headlines on CP24 is about sexual assault. The story about Jian Ghomeshi fit into the spectrum very, very well. Open the weekly Toronto Star and there will be AT LEAST one article about how difficult it is to be a woman, gay, transgender or how a 8 year old boy has decided to be a girl.

Example 5- I am a convinced feminist who is 5'9", never exercise, eat anything I will, weigh 190lb because I'm all about that bass and every week I go out with at least 2 different, stylish, tall (under 6', I just can't do, you see, I have a thing for tall men, it's just me) and often athletic men, who drive me around with their BMW's and want to hook up with me. You are complaining that with your 5'10" you can never get a date? It's clearly your fault, just stop being so passive and be a man for once, like men these days are such pansies!

So, what can we do? Stay here and hope to find a woman who has spent virtually all her life in perfect isolation (which is the only way to escape being affected by feminism)?

I am getting out of here, I don't know about you. 10 years in Toronto, trying to prove to myself that it's all in my head were enough.

Sincerely yours,
Pop Gruyo Banski

Reader Submission From Germany Part 4

I actually received this submission about a year ago so I'm a little late in posting this :)

Hello! The german here.

I wrote some stuff on this blog two years ago. Since then, a long time has passed and i now want to share my experience regarding detachment from women.

Before i start describing i should explain what value detachment from women holds for me, because the process of detachment is influenced by my views and is generally happening in my head. Detachment from women means freedom to me. E.g.:

- not having to pretend to like the conversation hoping for intimacy
- not having the need to associate with women, because i want to fuck
- ...

I've become an incredible lazy person regarding courtship. My last date was roughly one year ago and i do not even care. I do not miss anything. I do not miss talking with girls, I do not miss them teasing me and so on.

I only engage in flirting, when the girl is really nice, attractive and clearly interested AND when i am in a social mood.

I visited a very annoying seminar last semester. Just when i was about to rush out of the room at the end of the last session a nice and attractive girl, who liked me from the beginning, started flirting with me. She was touching my arm in an unusual way, holding intense eye contact, saying "goodbye, take care..."(in german, you normally do not say "take care" as part of the leave taking). I just wanted to get out, because the seminar was so very annoying at the end. So i said, "yeah you too" and was out.

A classical chance missed. I felt slight remorse for a short time and moved on. My own indifference surprised me.

The jealousy i felt sometimes, when i saw a good looking girl with another guy is gone. Very rarely, when i am in a very bad mood, it returns as a very weak emotion, which disappears in seconds.

Sex for me happens rarely. Basically only when my russian girl comes to Germany. The last time she visited was the summer last year. She does not take up much time in my life, but for the occasional email. I do really like her though, she has a nice character and i enjoy the very rare sexual encounters, but i am not dependent on them. I can take good care of my sexual urges myself, which is very important.

All in all my happiness has increased significantly after i abandoned Pick-Up and detached from women. The hardest thing on the way was:

- Not having the validation of women/the lair anymore to boost the ego.

When i did Pick Up my performance was directly correlated to the response women/the lair gave me. And naturally i got used it. The positive responses were sunshine for my self worth. The negative responses of women were not that bad for my self worth, because my wingmen in the lair gave me props for approaching anyway.

When i stopped Pick Up it were the positive responses from the lair and the women, which i craved. I had mood swings going from content to miserable for apparently no reason. Not a nice thing to have. But over time i got used to it and cold approaching became alien to me. My mood stabilized and bad moods became a rare thing. Nowadays i mostly feel satisfied and happy with the occasionally bad day, which everyone has from time to time.

So i evolved into a mostly happy and content individual. My interest in dating or flirting with women gradually declined as i were not willing to put the effort into online dating and my social circle consisted (and still consists) mostly of males. I had a few dates with other girls, one i described on that blog, which led to nowhere. I was mostly interested in sex with those girls, since they were not very interesting personalities and could not make me laugh. This led to me not willing to play the entertainer for them the entire date, as this was too much work for sex. One date i fucked up though :D.

This is my experience so far, i hope you could take something useful out of it.