Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Warren Farrell

Warren Farrell is a long standing champion of men's rights. He is a very credible person to listen to. One big reason for this is simply because he rose out of academia, but with some very non-mainstream views with regards to men and women. Unlike someone who was always on the fringe and who, by their very nature, opposes mainstream thought (and is often biased against it as a result), Warren Farrell rose out of mainstream academia, and came to oppose the prevailing mainstream feminist thought that dominates academia using nothing more than the strict academic principles of objectivity and logical reasoning.

I'm providing two links, in PDF format, in which Warren Farrell talks in depth about the pitffalls of feminism and the cherry picking and distortion of facts that feminists commonly use to promote pro-female, and male-bashing attitudes. It's a good read. They were taken from his website: http://www.warrenfarrell.com

The Myth of Male Power: Why Men Are the Disposable Sex (Part One)

The Myth of Male Power: Why Men Are the Disposable Sex (Part Two)

It's a good idea to save these files on to your computer in case they ever get taken down or access is restricted.

Here are two videos in which Warren is a guest on Donahue:

Monday, October 29, 2012

Guys Who Slip Through The Cracks

This blog is intended for guys who slip through the cracks. Guys who, for one reason or another, never had much in the way of girlfriends. One of the main causes for this, I think, is that these guys missed out on those opportunities that present themselves early on in the first few weeks of college, or university, to make that network of friends that lead to a girlfriend. Or maybe it's just bad luck where their circumstances just never led to a girlfriend. But regardless, it's hardly an unusual occurrence, and happens quite a lot. Society is full of people who have slipped through the cracks in the legal system, justice system, or whatever system. This blog is for men who have slipped through the dating system. Cracks such as these generally point to flaws in the system, rather than to problems with the individual, which is often the knee-jerk rhetoric used to dismiss complaints of problems.

The dating dilemma many guys face is not something that is acknowledged in any mainstream channel, certainly not like bullying or anything like that. It's a problem facing many males, males who, for lack of another phrase, slip through the cracks, and find themselves in a weird kind of vacuum where they are surrounded by females and yet cannot connect with any of them. Water, water everywhere and not a drop to drink, as the saying goes. It's like all the easy paths to getting a girlfriend, or even just getting sex, are shut down, and you are left with the most tortuous and stressful options, which involve massive cold approaching, online dating, indirect bullshit, and all the humiliation that goes with all of that.

The cracks are big and seem to be getting bigger. I personally have fallen through and I know how hard it is to crawl out in any appreciable fashion. You have to be very resilient, creative, and adaptable, because when you are a single guy trying to get a date out in public, you are up against a lot of obstacles. Females, in this environment, are extremely reluctant to engage any guy who does not automatically appear through the accepted channels (school, work, or friends) and will make it almost impossible for romantic connections to happen any other way.

You can luck out of course, but if you want guaranteed results you either have to be an approach machine and rely on the statistical odds in your favor (hovering at 1% or less), or hire a prostitute which, in terms of cost-benefit, is actually the best option, assuming you can do so safely.

Men who slip through the cracks need a voice, and this blog is one place where those voices can be heard. If society has a problem then it's the extreme cases which will bring attention to it. Yes, extremes always exist, but when you have whole communities of guys posting online about how to get with women using the most ridiculous of techniques (e.g. PUA techniques), or just ranting in general, it's not something that can be ignored. There are just too many extreme cases which show that this is more than an individual problem. I've met quite a few guys who have complained about tough to meet women, and I didn't have to look for these guys. I just ran into them. This tells me that there are many more men with this problem than just those who post online about it, which is already a heck of a lot of men.

Some will try to dismiss men's complaints by pointing to the more radical points of view in the men's movement; points of view which suggest that women should be kept in the kitchen, subservient to men, etc. There is a bit of that for sure, but on the whole it's mostly just guys fed up with the pretentious and entitled way many women act, and the society that permits this. These are guys who want more balance, pure and simple. So you cannot dismiss a movement just because it contains a few radical points of view. All movements are like that. You have to look at the main messages.

Yes, there are many benefits to living in a modern industrialized society like this one, and we should appreciate those advantages and make the most of them, but we also have to speak up when there are problems. That's how we've gotten this far, and this is how we will get further. What I talk about here is just one of society's problems.

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

My Thoughts On Unattractive Women

If I wanted to have as much sex as possible without paying for it I would have to include unattractive women into the mix. This is not surprising to any local man who has tried to get laid with a variety of different women. The dry spells are too frequent and there's just too much effort involved to consistently get attractive women into bed. The truth is that you often have to lower your standards to get sexual release. But the problem with that is that right after you get the release you want to get as far away as possible from the woman. You were not really attracted to her to begin with but because she passed the female requirement you went for it, and now that you got your sexual release you can't help but feel somewhat turned off by her appearance. So you opt for a quick exit. It's not really your fault, or hers, you just needed someone to take the edge off, and she helped you do that.

I've been with several borderline women, never particularly nasty, but always at least somewhat do-able, at least at that particular time when I was desperate. It can be an eye-opening experience in the introspection sense. Years ago I came to realize that I no longer want to be with a woman that I want to get away from after fucking ONCE. So I made a rule for myself. I have to still be sexually interested in her right after sex, otherwise she is just not attractive enough for me. In fact, I would much rather be with a considerably older woman who is still pretty and with a nice body, than with a fat young woman with a pretty face. Probably some of you feel the same way.

If I have a sexual opportunity with a woman and I envision myself making a break for the exit after fucking her, then I won't do it. I guess it's morally the right thing to do, since I avoid "using" her. But at the same time I know that the one night stand isn't as damaging to women as we have been led to believe. In fact, if you put aside all the token morality you find that women are perfectly able to enjoy a brief fling despite all the posturing that they are not that kind of girl and that there are feelings involved yadda yadda. It's all just a facade to protect their reputations and selfish pride. That's the only place where feelings are involved.

I'll only stay with a woman long term if I want to stick around after having sex. And for this to happen she needs to be attractive enough for me. If she has a nice body but an ugly face that won't work for me. If she has a nice face but is too overweight that won't work for me either. I realize that this is better than the worst case in which the woman is grossly overweight with an ugly face, but standards are standards, and the only reason such a woman wants me to begin with is because I'm physically more attractive than her. I've talked about this before, but women typically always shoot for men more attractive than they are, and that sweet unattractive girl is most certainly only sweet to you because you are above her league, and if you were in her league (or below it) she would likely blow you off just like all those attractive girls that men typically desire. You know which girls I'm talking about, the ones with nice bodies and nice faces. Those women are on average the biggest bitches. Less attractive women may be nicer but probably only because that is forced on them. They simply cannot get away with being snotty and stuck up based on how they look. So they opt for plan B, which is, be nice and treat people well because you have no choice. Of course, there are genuinely nice women who don't base their attitude on their looks (or lack thereof), but it just seems to me that all local young and attractive women act like A-list celebrities with a diva complex. The temptation to be a stuck up bitch must just be irresistible if you're an attractive young woman.

The leads me to the conclusion that if you want to be with a woman for the longer term she must at least be near your own level of physical attractiveness, if nothing else to avoid those types that only go for those guys that are way above their league. Sure, such a woman might treat you real well, but only because she scored such an incredible catch, which she most certainly is not. And to me that does not sit right. So it's better to get into a relationship with a woman that is near your own level of physical attractiveness, which makes it more likely that she has reasonable standards based on her own level of attractiveness, and is therefore more likely to have other positive traits as well.

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Not Much More To Talk About

I covered a lot on this blog and I really don't have much more to add to it. If I feel inspired I will certainly write more, but that is becoming less and less frequent. I don't want to be a blogger who always finds a way to put a new spin on a previous topic, thereby always creating new content. I would much rather keep things new and fresh and touch on subjects again only where necessary. And ultimately it seems that almost everything has been discussed on this and my other blogs, as well as by all the comments, which are a great contribution which I really appreciate. Thank you for them!

There's very few in the way of loose ends to deal with subject-wise, but here is one that does come up in the comments from time to time, and that is on the matter of what guys can do to deal with the problems they are having with women in the area. Some suggest to just leave the city. Others suggest to travel more. Others lean towards going to prostitutes, if nothing else just to take the edge off the desperation and help put things in perspective. I personally think all three are worthy of consideration. If this city makes you miserable then by all means move out, but only once you're sure it's the city that's the problem and not something you can fix yourself. Travel is certainly good, and if I had the means I would travel constantly, which would help on so many levels, as well as taking care of the woman problem. And if you can't travel then do the next best thing and meet foreign women that recently moved here. You can sign up for a language exchange program which is probably one of the easiest ways to meet foreign women. Or just figure out where in the city to hang out so you can meet them.

Lastly, prostitutes are also a good option. In a city where it is comparatively much easier to make money than get a girlfriend, prostitutes make a lot of sense. But don't go looking for love from these women, as was stated in one comment. Just go in with the mindset of seeking sexual satisfaction from attractive women who just happen to be very accessible, for the right price.

If you want to meet women the natural way through real life interactions you better have a thick skin. It will wear on you and piss you off. I would learn to be as efficient as possible, and trust your instincts. If 200 women show no initial interest in you then just move on. The one that is interested and wants to show it will make it very easy for you to spot, even if the previous 200 women ignored you. There's no need to second guess yourself because very large numbers of rejections by females is commonplace in this city.

One other loose end to wrap up is related to a post I wrote way back called Relationship, Inc. I recently updated that post to include a discussion about marriage. I didn't bother making a separate post for it, since both fit well together. Here's the post: Relationship, Inc.

Lastly, I've been working on a new blog. It's a satirical blog with heavy exaggeration and plenty of sarcasm. In this blog I pretend I'm the perfect man and create a fictional account of what it is like to be a perfect man who meets women in the city. It's a different and perhaps more entertaining way to communicate the social problems that I talk about on this blog. Here it is: http://the-perfect-male.blogspot.ca