A lot of men (and some women) argue that women are justified in being very picky because they (unlike men) can get pregnant. So as a result, women are forced to exercise more caution in mate selection since a mistake is much more "costly".
Now, I will agree that there is some truth to this statement. Women are naturally going to be a bit more selective than men since they carry more of the risk, whereas a man can spread his genes without as much risk (evolutionarily speaking).
However, what these people usually fail to mention is that there is only 5-6 days of the month in which a woman can get pregnant, and the rest of the time there is virtually no risk of pregnancy. In other words, the majority of the time a woman can sex it up just like a man and not have to worry about any consequences related to unwanted pregnancy.
In fact, in one study* of chimpanzee populations (our closest relatives in the animal kingdom), female chimps were observed to be especially promiscuous (less choosy) when the risk of pregnancy was low. But they were choosier when the chance of pregnancy was highest. During this time they would mate more frequently with the higher-ranking males. This overall strategy would secure a high number of affiliations while also securing the best genes.
The results of this study make a lot of sense. Why should females be picky all the time when there is no biological reason to be? It seems to be a much better strategy to be picky when you have to be and the rest of the time just have fun, even with a guy who doesn't match every single criteria on your monster checklist.
But this is not what's happening.
Women in these parts are picky for reasons that have more to do with their own inflated sense of fabulousness, and less to do with any script dictated by their hormones.
The other thing is that, with the use of contraceptives such as condoms and birth control pills, there is even less need to be picky. On the one hand (with condoms) you are consciously communicating that there is a barrier between her precious eggs and your (potentially) low-value sperm. On the other hand (with the pill), those same hormones affecting women's picky-ness in the high-risk period should be completely removed so that at no point in the month will she be justified in behaving like a stone-faced gatekeeper.
But I realize this may just be too much for some to take in. But the jig is up. Well for me personally it was up a long time ago. I have long since realized that women's picky-ness is for the most part not a sign of anything virtuous (social or biological), but rather a sign of intense self-love brought on by decades of feminism and society-wide ego stroking of women.
* "The efficacy of female choice in chimpanzees of the Tai Forest, Cote d'Ivoire", by R.M. Stumpf and C. Boesch, 2006.
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"Why should females be picky all the time when there is no biological reason to be?"
Is it really that difficult? There is another obvious evolutionary reason: this is because they want to maintain a reputation of being selective and non-slutty, as this signals to prospective mates that their children will be more likely theirs.
If that's true it is a response to the social environment. The minute they go on vacation somewhere that nobody knows them, all bets are off. Also, there are plenty of places in the non-anglo world where women are naturally much more approachable and much easier to hook up with, which tends to weaken the evolutionary defense argument.
The willingness of women to hook up with males outside of their territory is explained by hybrid vigor.
"...self-love brought on by decades of feminism and society-wide ego stroking of women"
I have NEVER in my life read a more succinct and accurate sentence of God inspired truth than this about why women are the way the are (especially in the West and in Toronto). When I read it --somehting snapped in me. I KNEW this all the time growing up and living in Toronto my whole life but it always kind of hovered in the back of my mind and I could never put my finger on it.
would you PLEASE keep writing I see you have only one entry for 2011.
GFK
What an arrogant, entitled jackass you are.
Oooh sorry, that must be my feminism kicking in.
^^^ No that's not your feminism kicking in. It's your stupidity.
I agree this "pickiness" is explained through social factors and not through evolutionary psychology. Women are being bombarded with information telling them that they should be: Independent and strong, that love hurts, that love is for the weak. That nobody respects nice guys, so they should like bad guys, but bad guys will break their heart. They want to be accepted and loved but according to what society tells them that they'll be f*cked in all senses when picking a romantic partner. I guess that is a very good reason to become picky.
Then you have to add that regardless of being told 1000s of times every day how much they s*ck unless they buy this miracle product and at the same time they are being told that they are equal to men but with more intuition. And you add that Spoiled girl like attitudes are being told to be virtues, while things like love, empathy, kindness, warmth are portrayed to them as weak signs. It is possible to explain not only their "pickiness" but their "pickiness and bitchiness" at the same time towards the average man.
I loved reading this blog, because of all the great articles and also laughing at all the guys moaning and complaining why they can't get chicks.
I know exactly what everyone else is going through, because I am a man and I have gone through the sames things.
Although, to somewhat burst the myth of Women being 'colder', 'less approachable', more 'stuck-up', 'aloof', whatever in Toronto than every place else, I believe this to be false!
Women are difficult to approach everywhere! - I have lived and visited many places.
The problem isn't with the women, the problem lies in you and your approach.
There are formalities and strict rules you *must* follow when approaching any stranger (men included) if you want to be successful in interacting with them.
The rules for enagaging and interacting with strangers are so strict that any deviation from the 'correct' path will generally lead to an undesirable outcome.
So, what are these rules?
Learning the rules of interaction are no different than learning to surf, ride a bike or learning to ski.
There's not much more left for me to write because you can't read your way in to becoming successful with women no more than you read your way in to becoming a successful surfer.
The problem lies in you and your fear of people and in there lies your first challange.
Okay. there is something seriously wrong with this blog. am even starting to think that it is written and run by all the single and undesirable men in toronto... ranting about how women do not seem interested in them... lol! Figures!
Anyhow, please get your facts straight... There are 5 to 6 days in a month that a woman CANNOT get pregnant and not vice versa. You can get pregnant any time of the month even when menstruating save for these four days called 'safe days'.
And number two, i think people are justified to be picky. Both men and women. The same way you would not like some woman you find undesirable imposed on you, is the same way some woman would not like the same. You are not doing the world a favour by being with someone you personally dont like. Whether you are a man or a woman.
Then again, personal observation: the blog doesnt address misandry. Misandry is about the hatred of men. Real hatred and not subjective perceptions. This blog is about how men feel that they are hated. Its all subjective. Just because Toronto women don't pay attention to you or treat you the way you would like to be treated then they are misandrists. There is something wrong with these women.
With that said, am done reading. No more b/s for me.
People who complain about the problems with women in this city tend to give specific details, like details about the women they approached and their response to those approaches, as well as specifics about other places in the world they have traveled to (as comparison to the women in Toronto). And people who say there is nothing wrong with the women in Toronto tend to speak in terms of somewhat vague generalities, i.e. women are the same everywhere because they "should" be the same everywhere. One group is basing opinion on direct feedback and the other group is giving opinion based on some philosophical perspective on how they think things should operate. Now, which do you think is more credible?
And it's not as subjective as you think. Lack of eye contact is not subjective, for example. To some people, things are only subjective when they don't agree with someone.
And btw, there are indeed only a few days of the month where a woman can get pregnant, because the egg is only viable for a few days.
And what about women who are on the pill, who are chemically inhibited from getting pregnant? For such a woman there is no biological excuse to ever be picky, unless she wants to be of course, which is what I'm trying to bring to light in this post.
"There are formalities and strict rules you *must* follow when approaching any stranger (men included) if you want to be successful in interacting with them".
Spoken like a true Toronto MANGINA.
I am an MRA (Men Rights Activist) and men like me all over the world DO NOT follow "RULES", we are true MEN, we go by our instinct, we act ourselves all the time. If a woman does not like that, well then SHE is missing out.
"What an arrogant, entitled jackass you are.
Oooh sorry, that must be my feminism kicking in. "
Gosh dont you love it when you strike a nerve?
"Okay. there is something seriously wrong with this blog. am even starting to think that it is written and run by all the single and undesirable men in toronto... ranting about how women do not seem interested in them... lol! Figures!"
HAHAHA that one especially made me laugh. Sweetheart, first of all and this is guaranteed, that people on this blog (myself included) are some of the attractive men in Toronto that you encounter on the train or bus and in public in general and we pretty much SNUB YOU because of your stuck up, arrogant attitude, while in reality, we wouldn't give you the time of the day.
No this is not hatred towards women, this is AWARENESS to the millions of MANGINAS all over Toronto, kissing every woman's ass.
You wanna talk Misandry? Why dont we ask MANGINAS in Toronto how women treat them....If a gf/fiancee/wife calls the police for any reason, saying for e.g: my bf is scaring me, guess who's gonna get locked up? and is it true that her bf is scaring her? maybe, but most of the time ITS NOT! women KNOW the law is with them 100% of the time.
Cheers
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