Friday, June 5, 2009

Dating Is Like Shopping

For many women, dating is a fun social activity, like shopping. It's a way for them to get out of the house and (maybe) connect with someone.

Unfortunately, men don't generally see dating as a fun social activity. They see it as a necessary evil they have to put up with to have a chance with women. This is what they have been taught.

When men date, they are generally going out of their way. When women date, they are generally doing something they enjoy anyway.

But here's the problem. Dating has very little connection to intimacy. And since intimacy is most men's goal, dating is one of the least effective ways to achieve it.

As a crude analogy, it's like taking a woman shopping hoping it turns on some sex shit in her head. That just doesn't work. It's the wrong filter for sex. And men hate shopping anyway!

Here's another analogy, dating and sex are like two parallel lines that will almost never intersect.

Dating is a waste of time for all those men who don't like to date but would still like to enjoy some fine ladies company under the sheets.

The problem is that in a city like Toronto (or any city), there are tons of options when it comes to dating. There is lot's in the way of fine dining, theatre, and so on. So it's very tempting to get caught up in the gravitational pull that is dating. And naturally, women being the creatures that they are, want to have a "taste" of all that. Not surprising, big cities have more dating-whores than smaller towns, which have less dating options.

But it's a sucker's game. Dating is the casino and men are the suckers who think they'll get "lucky".

But there is a solution. You don't have to do any of it! You can just meet for inexpensive drinks at some cozy bar, and get to know each other that way. Or you can use the accelerated program, and invite the girl directly to your place. If you already met her you can do this instead of go on a date. It lets you know very quickly where things stand. I can't even begin to describe how effective this strategy is. It does so many great things. It avoids the dating-whores. It avoids the women who aren't interested in you sexually. It gets to the point quickly, saving you lots of time. And you are in a relaxed environment where you don't have to masquerade as a "gentleman" when you just want to get naked. Taking this direct approach is the right filter for sex.

Using the accelerated approach, there are so many pluses and virtually no minuses, except one -- the dating industry doesn't want guys to do this, and many women don't either. But as men, it is your job to put a stop to this nonsense, because the dating industry and women sure as heck won't. The time to start is now.

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